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Sex to me was never a tabboo thing....I always liked it, like anything good for the mind body and soul. Believe me, if you really like a person by heart and he reciprocates, then u both can experience wonders in bed.

Sex is like having a great meal. Prepare for it tastefully. Love and chemistry matters. The more hunger you have for the opposite sex, the  more you will enjoy it. Having it with a person you crave can be immensely satisfying. Everything seems to be heavenly in bed....the touch, the movements and the passion.

 Call me stupid, immature, shallow, and what have you, but I have to confess!

 All my life, I have judged people by their looks. More often than not, my mind is made up even before they open their mouth, let alone their mind. And then cyber space came and virtually took over my life. It started with rekindling relationships with old school buddies and cousins. Then spread on to looking for information's and Knowledge.Along the way, I collided head-on with fakes and know it all's. With married man who thought they were singles. With broken hearts that seem impossible to mend and then, I stumble upon him. Happy and gay from outside, Sad and lonely from inside. I only got to judge him through his mind and I dint mind it at all for once.

 We spent many a day, and nights chatting over the net. From what we ate to what should I do to knock down those love handles. He had a cam, which he occasionally invited me to view: - Must admit, Twa's a treat to thine eyes! Smartly dressed while in office - At home in smart casuals. On the far corner I could see the window that was dressed more like the Victorian princess. She had few layers of thick yarn, topping it up with a curvy piece, adding a tassel on its edges. The view of the window was far and between - it happened only when he changed his clothes!

 He sent me songs. Lots of them! Even dedicated a couple or two to me. He called me few times. The significant call was on a day, when it was drizzling. With a heavy heart, a cigarette on one hand, he walked like a zombie, listening to his ipod. He was sad and he was lonely. He missed his ex. He missed what they had in between. And he also wished, I was there...I held on to my phone, feeling helpless. I only wished I had a tool box that would fix his problem - But Alas!

 And then, I went to the wilderness. A holy place where, one would find only monk. "If you want peace and happiness in your life or any of your family/friends life, lit a candle" A monk announced. I lit five candles. For everyone, there was a 5 minutes silent prayer. I prayed he find his happiness. I prayed he find his peace. I also prayed for 3 other friend besides me.

 Six months later, with thousands of miles between us, he announced he found somebody to love. He found his happiness, he found his peace. Perhaps, nothing to do with the candles. Perhaps, everything to do with the candles and the prayers. Perhaps he was the best soul out of the five people I lit the candle for (including me) and therefore!

 I told him, I was heartbroken, because, I would miss the chats, the occasional phone calls, and the thought of never seeing him again at work, at home. I was indeed heartbroken, because I've grown to more than like him. As I slowly typed to reply him back, I knew, more than anything else I wanted him to be happy. He promised me, I would remain his sweetheart, henceforth.

 Whatever!

 Possibly this is what they call unconditional love. For, I don't feel I have wasted space nor drained Bytes in those seven months of discovering each other through the net. Yes its official, this is indeed unconditional love: One, where love remains rock steady, no matter what the relationship might be. Yes, I will miss all that and more. But!It was not meant to be. Que sera sera!

 After hours of thinking I am smiling silly about the Putative break-up! Adieu my dream lover, Hellow my friend

 Itz totally unknwn 2 me hw 2 been kisd or 2 kiss..!

It was one of those nights when everyone seemed to be happy! The whole world was in a celebrative mood to bring in the New Year .Yet I was feeling lonely and heartbroken. The guy whom my parents tried hooking me with seemed no good ,the one on the matrimonial website had his own sob story... And the one who broke my heart miserably a few months ago refused to get off my mind.. 

Enough, I said! Dressed in my very best, I headed to my friends barbeque party! I knew I would hardly know anyone so I requested my best friend to accompany me. After several rounds of cajoling, he finally agreed. I was extremely elated without knowing what lay in store for me.

We reached there a few minutes before the New Year! A couple of drinks down, and exchanging cordial hellos with the others, we retired into the private space for some soulful talks. A little flirtatious. A little caring, a little formal, our conversations spanned various emotions. 

Dunno why, I felt an overwhelming urge to cuddle into his arms. Some friends pulled us for dance and we got involved back in the crowd. We enjoyed with each other as with the others and welcomed in the New Year partying and making merry. As the night grew deeper, the dance floor emptied, we decided to go and rest upstairs in the rooms.

Lying next to each other seemed no big deal otherwise, but today my emotions were weakening me. I was shivering and the AC was only worsening it. The moment I got up to switch off the AC, he pulled me closer into his arms. I found myself incapable to resist and an irresistible urge to hold him close swept me. We spent the hour cuddling and getting absorbed in each other’s warmth. At the dusk of the New Year, we kissed each other a beautiful year ahead!

Suddenly life seemed brighter! I don’t know why but I felt that my wounds had healed. The warmth had been capable of melting my heart that had closed itself to happiness. While coming back with him, the world around me seemed so beautiful and a message from the skies clearly reached my heart; there’s something better lying in store always!

I was no longer broken hearted.. What happened to our story? I leave it for the readers to guess!

An expensive mobile phone lay on a steel sheet with its innards spread.  The technician poured over it, while a young apprentice watched in either rapt attention, or sheer boredom.  I leaned over to get a better look at the powered-up electronic entrails, fascinated at the tiny parts the guy was poking at.

 I jumped a bit when the store-owner barked crude Hindi at the boy, who promptly swiveled on his stool and disappeared behind a filthy-looking curtain.  Ambarish Bhaveshamjibhai Champak was the pan-chewing stereotype, his name typed in runny ink on a certificate issued by the Commercial Tax Office hanging next to his fat face.

 The apprentice was back at his attentive act after placing a glass of yellowish water on Shri ABC’s ancient counter.  Shortly, the oily bastard handed over my just-repaired mobile, and rudely thrust a paper with an exorbitant fee at me.  

 I was flicking through my wallet, when a raucous buzzing from the technician’s counter sent both the boys jerking back in alarm.  An incoming call had sent the phone’s loose vibrator jumping like crazy over the steel plate, and the repair guy looked sheepish.

 He picked up the violently errant electronic in his fingers, and held it up for all to see.  Predictably, he made a slow to and fro motion with the still buzzing vibrator that would’ve been understood the Universe over as meaning only one thing.

 Men will be men.  But I was flush with embarrassment as I hurriedly left the oppressive store closely hounded by the sounds of their lewd laughter.

 Now home, alone, stripping out of my sweat-sticky clothes, I realized that I’d been thinking of only one thing during the tedious walk back.  Even the strongest dams of repressed desire need but one trigger to create a flood.  And mine happened as I sat cross-legged on my bed, a meager meal in front of me, and the TV remote in my hand.  An eager advertisement in the middle of Grey’s Anatomy had just sent me spinning with unbridled lust.

 A little into the next hour, I lay awkwardly in bed and surveyed the chaos around me – shredded condom wrappers, a mauled tube of KY Jelly, the now lube-slick landline phone that came free with my broadband by my side, and the sheets in terrible disarray.

 I was perspiring, panting mildly, and I felt weird and stiff.  Barely able to move, I rolled over to reach for the landline again, grinning wickedly to myself.  Even as I dialed my own cell number, the TV blared out the advertisement - my trigger on rerun:

 “…delivery in 30 minutes, or free!  Dial-in for a slice of happiness.  Our Happiness Hotline number is…”

Getting lucky: Abhinav Sisodia
Innocent starting: I never had this inkling that I would be helping people in their relationship problems. Study problems yes, game tips ok, discussion on subjects like music, movies and others sure why not, but tips on how to make your gf/bf happy and sort problems out. NEVER!!!!!! By X class, I wasn’t interested in girls anyways, well except 1, which my over practical Virgo self told me is just infatuation imposed on me by all the silly notions shown in movies :O . Sounds heavy, doesn’t it :D

Well it started in class IX anyways; one of my junior and a good friend was having an affair with a girl who was his Jr, if I remember correctly. Yeah kids start early, now stop acting shocked. My expertise till that time was to crack jokes, play pranks, enjoy and entertain. So 1 day, I saw that girl a little upset and without even thinking that she might feel bad I started teasing her with comments. I can sense some soft hearted ppl saying Tch tch, but hey not everyone is perfect especially if that every1 is me.

Well, next thing you know she was looking at me and saying, “Bhaiya, aap hi batao, mein kya karoon. Wo har time mujhse gussa kyun rehta hai. Isme meri kya galti hai.” First thing first, it hurts when a girl calls you bhaiya. Moving on, I was speechless for a moment by this turn of events and then I realized that maybe because of some of my comments, she had figured out that I know the reason of tiff between the lovers. I honestly had no clue, but here kicked in one of my weaknesses. I can’t see a girl sad, sucker for that damsel in the distress stuff you say, well yeah kinda. :D

Solution Offering: So I started talking to her, and within few minutes was aware that it is miscommunication, teenager ego and stupidity in equal proportions which is causing this whole rift. Needless to say that next day I confronted our Young Romeo and had a word with him explaining him the young Juliet’s side of story (Juliet was actually 13 when she died) and at the same time sympathizing with him also. He promised to have a word with her.

Outcome: Well, things did turn out pretty well, as I hoped. All was well in love nest, though how long the relationship actually lasted, I have no idea. I left that school in Xth. But that did give me a reputation of fixer and a deep insight in the minds of girls and guys in relationship which actually was a great help when I had some of my own. :D

The idea is about writing the whole thing in different episodes or series or version I am writing the version 1.0 here which is about the first ones (charming snakes) here and will continue the other categories later ..

Females who flirt with married/committed men

Women have this whole stuff about “wanting something you know you can’t have” or getting the one u can’t achieve or seeing it in the reverse way what t If I achieve what  is impossible.
I think a lot of it has to do with wanting something you know you cant have. Some women like to flirt with a married man because they know nothing will come of it and it’s just fun for them. Other women, on the other hand, like the idea of teasing a married man. Either way, you could be more confident now than you were in your single years and confidence just radiates from a person if they have a lot of it. Women love a confident man. If you are older than 25 or 30 chances are, women of these ages are beginning to wonder if there are any good men left and when they see one that interests them, they can’t help themselves.
I’ve known women that wouldn’t give a man the time of day unless he had a gold band on his ring finger. Just be flattered that women are flirting with you. The awesome thing about that is, the more they flirt, the more confidence you exude. Some single women say they date committed men because it’s easy and that they’re not looking for a commitment at the time. Ok so, if you’re not looking for a commitment then why someone who is supposed to be committed for life? Why not a single guy? How easy can it be to be in a relationship with a committed man? There is no way that you can just say it’s only something to do from time to time. Feelings have to be factored into the equations somehow, because you didn’t like him because he was easy. It was something about that man that drew you to him in the first place. Time to time involves a lot of things such as trying to get together to see one another. Granted you may be very busy or not, but trying to see someone who’s married can be very difficult either way. If you are free for the day and just need to spend time with him, you have to see if he is available. After you find out if he is or not then you have to try and work around his schedule. Sounds like a lot of work for someone who wants to see someone from time to time. Once you both have figured out what his schedule is and when it is that you can see him the next move is how long you can see him.
Now this is something I really think its one sided opinion but what I really know for sure is a women loves challenges and thinks  if she can grab one who is already committed and then t becomes a fight of power and individuality. And as they say she always wins whether she is committed one or the to-be committed one.

Intentional flirts at workplace
Hey we are not talking about “SEXUAL HARASSMENT IN THE WORKPLACE” we are talking about harmless (???) flirts here. Just a question arose in my mind is flirt harmless??? Now that is a question I will ask myself later Whether they like it or not, we have to accept, once and
for all, that women are marching up the corporate ladder confidently and with
full speed ahead. Women used to be much more “quiet and passive” in
the workplace due to the relatively small number of female employees in comparison
to males. Women today, on the other hand, have begun assuming their positions
by using all their God given powers of intelligence and organization. Logically
speaking, though, even if a minute amount of women batted their eyelashes, wore
nice perfume and subjective outfits to get to the top; wouldn’t they still need
to be clever enough to hold those high positions? Nice question … I disagree I
know so many of the women who somehow always manage by batting their eyelashes
and a smile to get their job done.

A study says
“It is a common misconception that many professional females got into positions of
power by utilizing their flirting skills, and their sexuality to their
advantage. Now although some women in certain circumstances have used
“their assets” to get what they want, the majority of women have
worked hard and stared adversity straight in the face to achieve their desired
success.”

As a type of defense mechanism, women have developed
dual personas; one for the home and one for the workplace. Assuming a
flirtatious and bubbly character at work results in wider acceptance among male
workers. This characteristic is independent of age and fairly present in
today’s male-oriented world.

I know a lot of you would disagree with this but, remember that they may use their femininity simply to have an opportunity to prove them and show off their professional skills in the long run. Making eye contact and wearing revealing attire is simply a means to an end for some females now this is also true it’s all about keeping the balance of flirts and gracefulness, once u are tagged as “flirt”   the story is over..

Though in my experience so far I have seen serious
committed ladies at work who are just interested in doing their work and
nothing else and I have seen the ones who would do everything except their …
designated work. So I think a mix and match or everything is there a curry is
combination of so many spices so is the women flock. Just adding a nice
advertisement I saw the other day to conclude. Contently you will find majority
of the working women wearing something like this in your office. Adding the
description as humor no pun intended.
Name:
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Description:
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Committed ones who flirt
Let’s use nomenclature again say the lady in question is “Ritika”… now that is name…

1.       Ritika not getting any love and affection at home.
2.       Ritika husband does give her lots of love and affection, but she just doesn’t dig the
guy anymore. For some reason she’s just trying to find out whether she’s still
got market value — in other words, she needs to see if guys are still
interested in her.
3.       As a passive-aggressive way of getting even with the husband. She may have felt rejected sexually and
emotionally, so the flirting can be a message to her husband to shape up or
risk losing the marriage.
4.       An attempt to get the husband’s attention
5.       To meet emotional needs such as feeling liked, being popular, or being thought of
as funny, entertaining, attractive, or sexy
Because guys, there’s another type of woman who still has high Interest Level in her
husband but when she sees a man she likes, she will flirt with him. And these
are the women who tend to dress like sex kittens even after they’re married,
because they want other guys watching them. Not that they want to get intimate
or romantic with another guy, but they need the strokes. Or she is just a flirt
or may be is trying not to loose with the non-committed ladies in the office in
the corporate race.
Remember guys; don’t go blowing things out of proportion just take light … I am sure you
understand the context…
So guys don’t fall in this trap even when she is saying all the nice thing believe
me u have a competitor with an edge so beware..
I call that flirting with disaster. People get shot over this crap. Open marriage
or not, I believe in one partner at a time. No offense to those who have
“open relationships”. Whatever turns your eccentric? If I see a
woman, especially one I’ve just met and know she’s married, that’s all the
information I need. This isn’t the jungle where the biggest and strongest ape
gets the girl no matter what her status is. Now that’s a personal opinion..
Take care and Take light.

Introduction

It has been a long time I wanted to write about this aspect of the female gender no harm intended…  Just writing my thoughts while thinking I want to categorically think of them in the following manner  

1. Charming snakes;  the natural flirts
2. Females who flirt with married/committed men
3. Intentional flirts at workplace
4. Committed ones who flirt

The idea is about writing the whole thing in different episodes or series or version I am writing the version 1.0 here which is about the first ones (charming snakes) here and will continue the other categories later ..

Charming Snakes

For nomenclature let’s call the guy as “Aman” the lady as ‘Ritika`… 

Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to introduce the case of the chronic flirt. That’s right, Ritika ’s merciless, ruthless and out to get your heart. Funny thing is, all guys fall for Ritika and her deceiving trap. Let me explain the scenario further. This is what happens: a woman meets a man, charms him with friendly eyes and seduces him with conversation. He hangs around her, calls her, and they go out every so often; there would be no reason for him not to make an effort with her, since he has been given every indication that his woman friend is indeed interested in Aman.

Days go by… Weeks going on the happy couple have gone out more than six times, only there hasn’t been any sexual contact just yet. Then, Aman, thinking that all he needs to secure this relationship and make it something more serious is to verbally announce that the two are, in fact, an item, an item on display to the world.

They are out on a date; Aman tells Ritika how he feels before the wine arrives. And how does she respond to his heartfelt confession? Shock. She’s actually shocked that he suspected there was something going on between them. But wait, that’s not even the best part of this twisted anecdote when he finally stops calling her, and starts showing interest in other women, guess who starts doing the calling? Yes, you guessed it. Our lady friend starts calling him practically every night after that, lest he actually loses interest in her. We’ve all heard of playing hard to get, but this is ridiculous! Now lets analyze why and what happened.. The lady was actually doing this for some reasons..;

1.   Lack of self confidence

    One reason is insecurity. It usually seems to boil down to a lack of self-confidence, the same reason for which women fall for jerks. For women (and I’m sure men, when the case is backwards), having men around chasing and pursuing them is enjoyable, to say the least, and is considered “backup.”

2.  Added appeal
    Having male admirers is also an accessory. There’s something appealing about a man or woman who has a group of “fans.” When it becomes known that someone has a slew of admirers, it adds to the appeal of the person in question. Women use this as a way to attract other men, the other men they really want, and keep their groupies as ammunition, for when necessary. Even though she may not be attracted to him and would not date him under any circumstances, he becomes more attractive once he no longer makes the woman the center of his world.

3.   Challenge
    In a twisted way, flirting and having men fall for women is almost a game; a challenge that women like to play with themselves. They’ll flirt to see if “they’ve still got it,” regardless of whether or not they are interested in the guy in question.

    Once the men they flirt with do fall for them and their little ploy, these women practically give themselves another point on the scoreboard hanging in their walk-in closet. After that, they chuck him with their Chinese take-out.

Today, the partner who's been lying, and got caught, actually calls off the relationship. See how.

 V: Hey, you said you'd call up when you reach Taiwan. Whats up?? (S reached Taiwan 17 hours back, though!)

S: Nothing yaar I slept. Just woke up few mins. back.

V(after thinking this time again, she just woke up only a few mins. before my call....hmmm..): But I was on facebook and saw your scrap on Seema's wall 3 hours back.

S: Shut Up! have you gone crazy, check properly! I went online 'yesterday' and posted the wall post then only.

V(smiling again, to himself): But the date it's showing is of today. I wonder facebook's lost it's sense of tracking the dates. Anyway, you're not coming back on 1st? Cuz' I remember your flight back is of 1st, and the party thing you guys are planning is on 1st, no?

S: What the **** is wrong with you! Man i'm so tired of you and your crap. You are becomming intollerable day by day. I feel so irritated by hearing your voice, LOSER!.

V(panicked): Huh???......*long silence....But you're coming back on 1st right? So how come you're going to attend the party in Taiwan which you promised to Seema??

S: Listen A-hole, Its none of your business. I'll do whatever I want, whenever I want. Who the **** are you to tell me?

V: Yep. Who the hell I am, right? I'm just saying do whatever you want to. But lying? Since you've gone to Canada I don't know who's put all these thoughts in your head? Why are you talking to me like this? It's you who lied, no me, right?

S: Shut up you ****. I'm tired of you, your complains, your face and your voice. We're over. Understand? and keep that in your head! I'm getting rid off you the first time I get the chance. You just wait and watch!

....Click.. Phone hung up.

V(panicked, sweating, shocked, angry, frustrated, insulted...and every thing!!) : what the hell man????? :-O

Once during a college fest I had met a beautiful American blonde and during our tete-a-tete I asked whether she prefers virginity or not and she said "it's a wonderful way of getting popular in school". I guess a clue had been taken from that by the youth in Bangalore.
 
I agree its quite hard for a teenager to be virgin but then keeping your virginity until you reach a mature stage and knowing the ifs and bits of birth control, and possible STD is important.
 
My girlfriend used to get wild sometimes, she wants me to pamper her but I am firm that if she is going to have it then it's only after marriage.
 
Am I harsh to her, or she doubts by manhood? That's a thing of ignominy. But whether she knows herself well enough that is the all important question.
 
The girl, whom I am going to date in future is probably going to be my wife. What are the things I require from her? Love, care, and most important 100 per cent trust.
 
Its all case of trust when it comes to live with a girl, if she had a pre-marital sex, she should be bold enough to dispose the matter to me, the same case holds for me too.
 
I may sound too vague but I don't understand the concept of casual sex. For me there has to be some emotion involved when I am going to sleep with someone.
 
And that emotion can only come when the particular person has rapport with me and I believe getting married for sex is" like buying 747 for free peanuts."
 
Men in general are better than women to talk to, I see I can talk to a man more than a women. Most of my friends believe that I am very conservative in my outlook.
 
That a girl clamors for sex and the ‘TDH’ (Tall, dark & Handsome) factor works, but to me marriage is an institution, the more compassion there, the more investment you do in it, the more valuable it becomes.
 
I would never want myself to be confronted in a situation where my wife come to make a statement that she resorted to pre-marital sex earlier and now she has problems.
 
I don't like myself to be the lover who said that he would go hell for her and now married he is undergoing hell.
 
This is the worst case think in a socialite party when someone tells you that your wife had been in his bed earlier that would make the situation really grim.
 
I don't curse women for pre-marital sex but in future there should be no excuse. If a man thinks that by love and compassion it would be quite reachable to solve the matter, then its ok.
 
But I am of the notion that I want someone whose true to me in her words .I think man who have pierced ear are better prepared for marriage and I am one since I have experienced pain and brought jewellery too.
 
I don't know what fate has stored for me but definitely yes! I will go by the lines as I frequently tell it my girl, "when a man holds a women hand before marriage its love, after marriage it is self-defense."
 
And who would not like to be protected by a virgin, after all Mother Mary was a virgin too.